Why Online Dating is Like Applying for a Job.

first_img Share 35 Views   no discussions Share As I recently answered a witty email from an online dating site while ignoring a boilerplate one, I got to thinking about the similarities between searching for someone to date and looking for a job. In both cases, your resume/profile and initial letter are the only thing standing between a dream life and rejection. Here’s how you can be better at both.1. Your profile is your resume: Be specificWho are you, really? You have to be careful here to not over or underdo it. Tell me too much about your quirks and I will think you’re weird. Too little and I won’t care enough to contact you. As you should on your resume, leave out looked over buzzwords and get down to the data. Sure you are a genuine guy who values honesty…I’ve heard that one before. What makes you special?Advice: Make very apparent the three or four things that you are passionate about so you can attract someone who actually has the same interests. Don’t just say you like to workout. Say you run 25 miles a week or do P90X. Don’t say you like music. Say you like a specific band especially if this means a lot to you. Sorry to say, I don’t date country, but many, many women do!2. But don’t be too specificTMI, my friend, is just as taboo in the workplace as in the online dating community. If your profile runs on for five mouse scrolls, has typos or is rambling, you’ll lose me. Anything about your ex will turn me off, period. If you got fired from your last job, you wouldn’t put that on your resume.Advice: If you are going to get specific, focus on something you know well. On your resume, this would be your most recent job. Maybe you increased sales by 45%. If you grill the best steak in the universe, throw it out there but be prepared to back it up. Steak enthusiasts will apply and smell a lie if you’ve never turned on a grill.3. Your email is your cover letterBoilerplate emails that go something like: I really liked your profile and would love to get to know you better or I am applying for the job you posted as are immediately deleted, unless you’re Brad Pitt. And even if you are, we’ll think you’re lying. The people I respond to comment on one or two things in my profile and connect it with something that they do.Advice: Don’t contact people you don’t think you could be friends with. You wouldn’t apply to a job as an executive chef with no experience in a kitchen. A marathon runner will rarely date a couch potato.4. Don’t winkOn Match.com at least there is an option to wink. This isn’t the ’50s. If you want to drop a quick line, do so, but follow the rules above. Even on Facebook, poking is so over and so impersonal.Advice: You wouldn’t be too formal with a hiring manager. Manners go a long way. Be polite and respectful.5. Don’t get discouragedYes you are going to get rejected most of the time when job searching or looking for someone you can stand to be around for more than 5 minutes.Advice: The best piece of advice is to look for something you want, something you are qualified for and to focus your energy on that. Once that letter is out, let fate take over. Then move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea waiting to match their chemistry with you in perfect (e)harmony.By Meaghan Cameronby Reader’s Digest Magazine LifestyleRelationships Why Online Dating is Like Applying for a Job. by: – July 15, 2011center_img Tweet Share Sharing is caring!last_img read more

Spurs sack AVB

first_img The humiliation by Liverpool, which followed a 6-0 drubbing by Manchester City last month, appears to have been the final straw for the Spurs chairman Daniel Levy who delivered the coup de grace in person at the club’s training ground in Enfield. Tottenham said in a statement: “The club can announce that agreement has been reached with head coach, Andre Villas-Boas, for the termination of his services. “The decision was by mutual consent and in the interests of all parties.” Villas-Boas, who was able to say farewell to the players before his departure, leaves after 18 months in the post. Bookmakers have installed Capello as the early favourite. Although he is currently Russia’s head coach and due to take them to the World Cup finals, Franco Baldini, his former assistant at England, is Spurs’ technical director, and Capello was at White Hart Lane yesterday commentating for Italian television. Other names linked with the post include former Tottenham striker Jurgen Klinsmann, currently coach of the USA, and a possible return for Hoddle. He was in charge at Spurs between 2001 and 2003 but has not been in club management since Wolves in 2006. However, Gary Lineker was among those backing the former England boss. Lineker said on Twitter: “Would love to see Glenn Hoddle given another chance at this level. Has a brilliant football mind.” The 36-year-old’s spell as Tottenham manager came to an abrupt end after the club announced he had been sacked, a day after Spurs’ 5-0 home defeat to Liverpool. Tim Sherwood, who is already on the coaching staff at White Hart Lane, is set to be in charge for the Capital One Cup quarter-final at home against West Ham on Wednesday and perhaps for longer in an interim role. There are also whispers that Southampton’s Pochettino, who has been hugely impressive at St Mary’s, has attracted Levy’s admiration though he is known to be fiercely loyal to Saints chairman Nicola Cortese. Guus Hiddink’s agent has ruled the Dutchman out of the running – he is taking over as Holland coach after the World Cup. Cees van Nieuwenhuizen told Press Association Sport: “I would be surprised if (Hiddink) went to Spurs. I could hardly imagine that happening. “He has just signed a contract with Holland and he has also turned down offers from other countries recently to coach them at the World Cup so I wouldn’t take any talk of Guus going to Tottenham seriously.” Swansea boss Michael Laudrup’s agent has also insisted the Dane is committed to staying at his club until the end of the season. Spurs are currently seventh in the table, two points ahead of Manchester United, and won their Europa League group with a 100 per cent record, scoring 15 goals and conceding just two in six games. Villas-Boas also had a good record overall as Tottenham manager, averaging 1.83 points per league match, and a win ratio of more than 53 per cent, the highest of all Spurs bosses in the Premier League era. Although the Portuguese manager did spend heavily over the summer, to the tune of £108million with seven new players coming in as Tottenham reinvested Gareth Bale’s enormous transfer fee, some of the signings were made over his head and that led to a breakdown in the relationship with the club’s hierarchy. Spurs midfielder Mousa Dembele admitted that the defeat by Liverpool had been humiliating. “It was one of the worst games I have been involved in,” the former Fulham midfielder said. “We are very disappointed in ourselves. Liverpool were much stronger than us and showed much more character than us. We are going to speak to each other, it is clear that we need to talk to each other. “Last year, against the top teams, we were stronger. It is difficult to say why it is like this now but we have to look at ourselves.” Earlier, Harry Redknapp – sacked as Tottenham manager in 2012 after failing to qualify for the Champions League – had said Levy should give his successor Villas-Boas more time. Redknapp told talkSPORT: “I think people are over-reacting too quickly. You lose a couple of games now and you’re in trouble, it shouldn’t be like that. “You either think somebody is good at their job or not and when you appoint someone you should give them time and let them do the job.” Tottenham confirmed their former midfielder Sherwood will lead an interim coaching team. In a short statement, Tottenham said: “The club can announce that Tim Sherwood, Chris Ramsey and Les Ferdinand will take charge of the first team whilst the club progresses discussions. Steffen Freund and Tony Parks continue as part of the coaching staff. “Jose Mario Rocha, Luis Martins and Daniel Sousa leave the coaching staff and we wish them well for the future.” Press Association Fabio Capello, Glenn Hoddle and Southampton boss Mauricio Pochettino have emerged as contenders for the Tottenham manager’s position after Spurs sacked Andre Villas-Boas.last_img read more